Why I left emotional religion

Emotional religion places emotional dependency at the centre instead of agency. Emotional experiences are organised around personal perspectives, creating the impression of unity without real sameness.

When people trust their own experience above allowing the receiver’s intuition to develop, just as theirs was not allowed, the pattern repeats itself. The result is not softness, but people who learn to listen well to others while losing the ability to listen to their own heart.

Maturity is no longer recognised through inner containment, responsibility, or growth. It shows instead in marital status, monthly financial obligation, and participation in strength-in-body suppressing habits, reinforced by weekly gatherings where social calm matters more than true self-regulation.

Human desires for real relationship and genuine attention are reframed as a lack of grounding in the personal perspective. Multiple gatherings sustain emotional dependency, and shared dependency feels calming to a dysregulated nervous system.

But human desire and human capability are not scarce. They are equally distributed among mankind. Emotional religion separates its followers from this truth and treats them as fundamentally different. From there, growth is no longer something that arises from within.

Receptivity to help is framed as growth. But growth feels empty when it cannot flow from the heart. Long-term desires are suppressed, even though they never truly pass.

Agency becomes asking for help, instead of responsibility or a path to joy in time. This makes growth easy to promote, because it appeals to human needs for reassurance and belonging. Large numbers then appear as success, while they are often a predictable result of that mechanism.

Joy in time cannot be sustained through psychological responses packaged as fulfilment. It is either cultivated by listening to the heart again, or gradually eroded through the displacement of one’s own intuition. What we call peace becomes anesthetics, not a lived state and neither outcome is without cost.